It's Turtles All the Way Down...

janesfoster:

coulsonlivesandfurylies asked: Darcy Lewis or Sif

andurile:

falling in love with a character who gets about ten minutes of screentime in a two hour movie

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I explained in great detail that one of my problems with SQ is the stepgrandmother/stepgranddaughter aspect. I know many people don't consider that incest but I do and it, well, I suppose it triggers me because I still love my stepdaughter even though her father and I are divorced. No one read my post about that. They just started calling me homophobic. They want others to see their side through a documentary but they can't read a post? Hypocrites.

ouatqueer-antisq:

People’s experiences are colored by their life experiences and who they are.  To simplify the human experience and a broad range of emotions to ‘nope you’re homophobic’ is so hurtful and insulting.

They did the same thing to Ginny who very understandably agrees with you robindianaashe. She sees it from Snow’s POV where Regina was a mother figure and Emma is her daughter so it makes sense from that POV from others I can see why they would view it as not a problematic incestuous like situation. I think both are valid POVs and I don’t know why the BAs have to say “NO it’s covering for homophobia!” because… well that’s beyond rude and really diminishes peoples subjective opinions on rather grey areas of morality that we all have a right to.

A&E said that Regina never raped Graham, I think we should listen to what they say about this. Maybe they'll explain what she really did to him in the show (they wanted Graham back in flasbacks, after all).
Anonymous

ouatqueer-antisq:

mewiet:

ouatqueer-antisq:

I think this is a perfect example of rape culture and white male privilege that A&E can say that.  It’s also a good example of Gold’s “Intent is meaningless.”

A&E can say what they want, but the show is primary canon and supersedes everything else.  They could say, just as easily, that Regina has never killed anyone, but it’s not going to make it true.

In FTL  the Huntsman was under threat of death and had to do whatever Regina said.  In Storybrooke Regina blocked Graham’s true memories and gave him false ones of being in a relationship with her.  If I give ruffies to someone and they don’t say no to sex it’s still rape; it wasn’t their choice.  If I kidnap someone and brainwash them into thinking they are in a relationship with me and have sex with them that’s rape.

When Graham has his memories back and knows who he is he breaks up with Regina.  He never chose to have sex with her.  It wasn’t his choice, Regina literally messed with his head to make it happen.  That’s rape.

Eddie calls Graham Regina’s boy toy.  A toy.  An object to be used.

Adam has this to say:

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"Also killed him."  As in "in addition to…"

Jamie Dornan calls Graham a puppet that has to do whatever Regina wants.  Jane Espenson (producer/writer) calls Graham Regina’s sex slave.

But really it comes down to the fact that Graham never give his consent.  He never choses to be with Regina.  It’s rape.

It’s also important to remember that because Regina had his heart, he was forced to be her “pet” regardless of his cursed memories. In OUATIW, which is in the same universe and written by the same writers, we learn that a heart can be kept in a box and never physically held by someone yet they will be under the commands of the last person in possession of the heart until it’s given back or the commands are otherwise lifted. We saw this with Cora’s control of the Knave’s heart and his “desire” to kill Alice. As soon as Regina took the Huntsman’s heart, he was permanently and utterly at her command, regardless of whether she was physically holding it or not. She merely further abused him by giving him fake memories of being in a “willing” sexual relationship with her, a magic drugging and brainwashing. There is literally no way in which her having sex with him in Storybrooke was not rape.

I never thought about that that scene with Alice and Knave implies about hearts.

Really good points.

What's your major in college?
Anonymous

morosity:

stress

with a minor in crying

betsypaige22:

nothingeverlost:

onceuponatime-confessions:

“I think whether Belle likes it or not she and Hook are on the same side now. They are both under threat from the Wicked Witch. They don’t have to be friends. I’d never expect them to be. Maybe it would be better if they were in a situation where Hook was trying to fight off a flying monkey and Belle accidentally shot him in the shoulder, because she was trying to shoot the monkey. Then they’d kinda be even. Though knowing Belle, she might still feel bad about it.”

I’m uncomfortable with this because it feels like it’s telling a victim they’re not allowed to have an issue with/dislike their abuser.  The fact that they are fighting the same enemy does not mean that Belle has to accept Hook, or like him, or forgive him.  This kind of thinking puts the blame on the victim.  It tells people who are abused that if their abuser changes they have to forgive the abuse.
No.  An abused person never has to forgive their abuser.  An abuser’s actions aren’t erased because they’ve changed.
Nor is there a point where they would ‘be even.’  Hook tried to kill her while she was chained to a wall after giving her false hope that she was going to be released after 4ish years of imprisonment.  Hook hid in her library and tried to kill her.  Hook held a gun to her chin on his ship and would have killed her.  Hook shot her in the back.  And for all of this all he’s said is ‘sorry?’ and only that because Emma was right there.
Belle is a good person.  She wouldn’t hurt Hook on purpose, and she wouldn’t want to hurt him on accident.  If she were to accidentally hurt him, like in the ‘shot in the shoulder’ idea, she would honestly apologize.
Belle and Hook have a common enemy.  That does not mean that they are ‘on the same side’ since Hook doesn’t give a damn about her.  She tried to point out what he’d done to her, it was basically ignored, and because finding Rum was more important she stopped talking and focused on the work.
I honestly hate that everyone left Belle alone with Hook after she pointed out that he tried to kill her.  It bothers me.  Granny is across the street with her crossbow.  Or Ruby.  Call in Grumpy with his pickax and brothers.  There’s literally no one else that could have stayed with Belle?  or at least been a second person there?

All this!

They’re on the same side? So Belle is on team “If I don’t do horrible things for the next five days Emma will have to bang me right?” … wow I’m in a grumpy mood.

betsypaige22:

nothingeverlost:

onceuponatime-confessions:

I think whether Belle likes it or not she and Hook are on the same side now. They are both under threat from the Wicked Witch. They don’t have to be friends. I’d never expect them to be. Maybe it would be better if they were in a situation where Hook was trying to fight off a flying monkey and Belle accidentally shot him in the shoulder, because she was trying to shoot the monkey. Then they’d kinda be even. Though knowing Belle, she might still feel bad about it.”

I’m uncomfortable with this because it feels like it’s telling a victim they’re not allowed to have an issue with/dislike their abuser.  The fact that they are fighting the same enemy does not mean that Belle has to accept Hook, or like him, or forgive him.  This kind of thinking puts the blame on the victim.  It tells people who are abused that if their abuser changes they have to forgive the abuse.

No.  An abused person never has to forgive their abuser.  An abuser’s actions aren’t erased because they’ve changed.

Nor is there a point where they would ‘be even.’  Hook tried to kill her while she was chained to a wall after giving her false hope that she was going to be released after 4ish years of imprisonment.  Hook hid in her library and tried to kill her.  Hook held a gun to her chin on his ship and would have killed her.  Hook shot her in the back.  And for all of this all he’s said is ‘sorry?’ and only that because Emma was right there.

Belle is a good person.  She wouldn’t hurt Hook on purpose, and she wouldn’t want to hurt him on accident.  If she were to accidentally hurt him, like in the ‘shot in the shoulder’ idea, she would honestly apologize.

Belle and Hook have a common enemy.  That does not mean that they are ‘on the same side’ since Hook doesn’t give a damn about her.  She tried to point out what he’d done to her, it was basically ignored, and because finding Rum was more important she stopped talking and focused on the work.

I honestly hate that everyone left Belle alone with Hook after she pointed out that he tried to kill her.  It bothers me.  Granny is across the street with her crossbow.  Or Ruby.  Call in Grumpy with his pickax and brothers.  There’s literally no one else that could have stayed with Belle?  or at least been a second person there?

All this!

They’re on the same side? So Belle is on team “If I don’t do horrible things for the next five days Emma will have to bang me right?” … wow I’m in a grumpy mood.

My friends need to be punished.

alayneestone:

I don’t serve your brother, Your Grace.

make me choose asked: Jaime/Brienne or Loras/Sansa

nothingeverlost:

Ouch

Rumple’s self hate is a thing of epic proportions…

delintthedarkone:

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